Better Behaviour at Bridge: 2014.4

 

Let’s Do Better

Law 74 – Conduct and etiquette

A2        A player should carefully avoid any remark or action that might cause annoyance or embarrassment to another player or might interfere with the enjoyment of the game.

 

There has been a lot of correspondence recently complaining about bad behaviour at the table. Unfortunately it is difficult for the powers that be to take any action after the event – both sides must be heard and the facts are difficult to establish.

 

We need everybody to co-operate in a two-pronged attack on unpleasantness:

 

Let us all make an effort not to interfere with others’ enjoyment of the game:

  • Be quiet – no shouting at partner/opponents, no yelling for the Director

  • Be calm – no emotional outbursts

  • Be considerate – bad language and cutting remarks may upset opponents even when they are directed at partner

  • Be nice – if an opponent is clearly upset an apology may help, even if you feel you have done nothing wrong

 

The other prong requires us to be tolerant of the foibles of others: we should not have unreasonable expectations of how others should behave.

  • If someone has annoying habits try to explain that these upset you before you actually become upset – they may not realise that their behaviour is upsetting

  • Give the offender the benefit of any doubt – take the kinder view

  • Remember – no-one is ‘right’ in these situations. You cannot excuse your own bad behaviour by citing bad behaviour from someone else